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Open Thread: Your Earliest Memory

Two young girls blowing out birthday candle at third birthday party

Most of my very early memories are a kaleidoscope of fleeting images, around when I was two: a sundress I really liked because it had a red bodice with sweetheart straps and a ruffled skirt with bright polka dots.  (I still like sweetheart straps!) A family photo with me sitting on a big chair holding a big doll by the hair (I wondered why the Big People told me to hold it).  My brother stood next to me because they said, “You’re the big brother!” (It’s hysterical to see his idea of what a “Big Brother” looks like.)  Hammering pegs into a little peg board. That sort of thing.

A Birthday Memory

My first distinct, complete memory was on my third birthday. Mom put me in a party dress with a scratchy crinoline slip.  A lot of relatives were there, especially my little cousins.  Mom took out the special birthday cake platter that turned around and around while it played “Happy Birthday.” The candles were lit, the magic moment had come, I stood up in my chair ready to make a wish and blow…..

….and my cousin Re-Re blew out my candles.

There was a fraction of a nanosecond of stunned silence.  But only a nanosecond.  I didn’t cry.  Instead, with the instinct and speed of a jungle cat, I slapped her in the face so fast my hand was a blur.  If I was a second or two faster I would have slapped her before she blew out my candles.

The Blowback

I thought I was justified, based on my membership since birth of the “Spare the Rod” school of childcare (her right hand was a stinger). Then Re-Re began crying and the Big People all talked at once.  Mom was mortified and wanted me to apologize, which confused me since I was playing by her rules. I stood my ground and refused to say I was sorry. I wasn’t, and I wouldn’t apologize.  Re-Re broke the most sacred rule of childhood: never ever steal someone else’s birthday wish.

To break the impasse, Aunt Bea told her daughter to stop crying because it served her right (in the “Spare the Rod” Club Aunt Bea was president).  They relit the candles and I had my wish. I don’t remember my wish, but I sure remember that incident: it was my first, earliest complete memory

I started aging with attitude young, I guess.

YOUR TURN

But that’s me.  What your earliest complete memory? Share your story in the comments!!

 

Virge Randall is Senior Planet’s Managing Editor. She is also a freelance culture reporter who seeks out hidden gems and unsung (or undersung) treasures for Straus Newspapers; her blog “Don’t Get Me Started” puts a quirky new spin on Old School New York City. Send  Open Thread suggestions to editor@seniorplanet.org.

 

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COMMENTS

18 responses to “Open Thread: Your Earliest Memory

  1. My earliest memory is of being sick, stuck in a baby cot , holding to the rails of the bed and crying like hell. I think I was not yet 3 years old!
    My mother told me,( later of course!), that I was very sick with dyphtheria, and she was scared I might harm my throat even more with all that crying. I remember pain and being alone, may be because I had other siblings who had to be kept far from the sick child.
    Not a very pleasant memory.

  2. I was born in the Philippines. One of my earliest memories was that I was a bedwetter. So I had to sleep on a mat on the wood floor, The mat was handwoven dried pandanus leaves. I remember I had to be given a bath or take one in the early mornings before going to school. We did not have kindergarten at all. So I went to first grade at age six. The test for acceptance into first grade was being able stretch my right arm above my head and bend that arm to see if I could touch my left ear.

  3. My earliest memory was the winter of 1950, when I was three. We had an horrendous snow. Dad helped the neighbors dig out. But, of course, I wanted to play in the snow to make a snowman. I would have been buried as we got 3 feet of snow. So dad made me a snowman and I watched from the dining room window. That is my earliest memory.

  4. When I was about one years old, my family lived in the downstairs apartment in my grandmother’s house. Since we were all family, the apartment doors were left open. My mother was making lunch and told me to call grandma to come eat. I toddled to the bottom of the stairs and called. Then, I thought, “I can crawl up the stairs and get grandma!” So I started crawling up the stairs. My grandmother then rushed down the stairs, scooped me up, and said I should never climb the stairs alone.

  5. My earliest memory was being placed in a car seat by my Father very early in the morning and being driven to a local bakery where he purchased fresh baked pastries for breakfast that morning. He drove a green 1953 Mercury Station Wagon. I remember the dark green color and faux wood paneling .

  6. This isn’t a complete memory, and I have been told it isn’t possible, but I remember my father carrying me as an infant to the babysitter through an alley which connected our houses. I remember his grey uniform which he wore to work.

    A more formed memory was insisting my parents hold my imaginary friend’s hand too when we crossed the street. I still see her clearly and remember her name.

  7. The current medical situation in Gaza brought back a memory , pushed back,perhaps, of the polio epidemic of the mid 50’s. We were 9, 7 & 5 and had earlier that spring received the 1st polio shots. We returned late summer from a week’s vacation in New Hampshire to find that two children in our veterans housing units had contacted polio with one child passing. I remember the fear and my thoughts go to Gaza and the families there.

  8. As a young child, I was on a lower level of an apartment building. I was trying to find my way by stairs to our apartment, but I realized as I climbed, that every floor had the same layout. How would I know which floor our apartment was on? This may have been at 514 Rockaway Parkway in Brooklyn, New York, in the early 1940s. Somehow I must have found the right floor because here I am, at Leisure World of Md, at age 86!

  9. My very first day in kindegarten. I arrived early w/my mother. I was wearing a fav blue checked dress. When arrived, the teacher met us at the door. She introduced herself and invited me in. She was telling my mother that I should go in and find my name and have a seat. Before she could finish the sentence, I had already found my seat asnd sat down with my hands folded on the desk. I then waved bye to mom.

  10. I have a misty memory of being in a baby carriage, being pushed down our Brooklyn street by my mother, and feeling gentle rain dotting my face. I must have been about 2 years old, and I remember seeing the gray sky, enjoying the rain, and trying to catch a few drops on my tongue. To me it was a beautiful, enjoyable moment. This was back in 1952.

  11. While I do have a sweetly fuzzy memory of being carried as a baby – maybe 9 months old – the first complete memory I was about 2. I had wakened in my crib just about dawn. I already knew better than to call my mom to get me out, so I stood in the crib and carefully folded my blanket and hung it over the railing, as she always did. Then I looked out the window at the brightening day and watched the birds. Yeah, I was a really early bloomer! ;-)

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